How to Prioritise Quality Hangouts with Friends during Busy Periods and the Holiday Season

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1. Holiday traditions aren’t just for family! Start an annual tradition with your friends. 

Whether it’s a New Year’s brunch, a gift exchange, or a classic movie marathon with your go-to Tostitos tortilla chip and dip – not only are we more likely to prioritise annual traditions, but these experiences strengthen closeness, cohesion, and that feeling of “us-ness” that makes our friendships so special. They also give us something to look forward to – and anticipation is a powerful force for connection and joy.

2. Embrace your inner initiator or social connector.

One consistent theme I see in my work on friendship and connection is that people wish their friends would initiate more. Embrace your inner initiator and be the social connector in your connections. Be the person who extends the invitation and brings people together. If (or when) it feels like too much, don’t be afraid to delegate – practice asking for help and share the load.

3. Team up and practise “stacking”.

The holidays can add so many tasks to our to-do lists, that it’s easy to get caught up in the busyness of life. Combine social time with an already-scheduled activity, errand, or commitment to save time and maximise connection. Call or meet up with a friend to meal plan, prep, shop for gifts, or write out your holiday cards together.

4. Let go of perfectionism and lean into low-pressure gatherings. 

Many people feel the pressure to have things picture-perfect – especially around the holidays. Balance the more elaborate and pre-planned events with casual gatherings with friends. Give your permission to let go of whatever fear of being judged you might have – friends don’t care about the tidiness of our homes nearly as much as we think they do! Recognise that low-key or even last-minute plans might be just what you need to escape the pressures of the holidays. Try any Tostitos tortilla chips and dip for a super easy snack on your next crew hang.